we're certainly not born a justice, which is something that justice john paul stevens reminded me during my first year on the bench one day when i was actually disclosing to him how anxiety-ridden i was about being a justice. and he just touched upon a reality for me. he said, "sonia, none of us is born a justice. we grow into becoming one." >> ifill: have you grown into one? >> not yet, but i'm growing. >> ifill: not yet. >> not yet but i'm growing gl >> ifill: one of the things you write about is learned habits for building bridges and building bridge where's others see cassisms. >> that's also part of the lessons i share in the book, if you build bridges and not chasms, if you don't build that sort of pool in front of you, but look at ways of sort of connecting with others rather than seeing your differences, that you accomplish so much more sphwhrief that seems anathema in washington. >> i'm told it is. >> ifill: just told. >> i'm smiling because, remember, i just got to washington three and a half years ago. but i think it's really a life lesson, which is if you approach life lookin